So where did we leave off? Oh that’s right, the part where I needed help and I needed it fast!
My first appointment was schedule for January 10th 2018. You know that feeling you get when you are about to make a life altering decision? Yeah, that times ten! I was nervous and sweating like nobody’s business. ” What will people say? What will they think? Am I making an irrational decision?”
And at that moment, I realized the brightness of my insecurities.
People always tell you not to care what other people say. Believe me, that’s easier said than done. We were born into a world that makes judgement a part of everyday life. We are judged by what we wear, what we say and what we eat. But above all, we are judged by the pigments of our skin. It is evident in the streets and it is evident in schools. It is evident on television and it is evident in real-life. It is an innate behavior;to judge. We use past experiences to predict future ones like “If she didn’t want me then, she won’t want me now.” We tell ourselves, “I couldn’t get it right the first time, so what makes me think I’ll get it right this time?” These are all predications of future actions from past experiences.
I had told myself that I wanted 2018 to be a year of pursuing & committing to change. I wanted 2018 to be the year of getting out of my comfort bubble and being free. But my year didn’t begin with a gym membership or a trip to a different country. It didn’t begin with quitting my job and cutting off all of my friends. It began with just one little change. A little change that propelled my way of thinking and predicting of future actions. My year began with a trip to Curl Theory.
I got to my appointment about ten minutes early because as they say, “if your not early, you’re late.” They’re 20% policy for no-shows and cancellations was also a pretty good reason to showing up on time. The lady at the front desk asked if she could take my jacket. “Are they gonna make me pay for this service too?” I thought. I digressed and accepted her offer. She then came back and asked if she could offer me a drink or something to eat. At this point, I wasn’t sure what to say. I had never been to a black salon where everyone was so polite, they offered you refreshments, and they took care of your hair with pleasure. I mean, the usual setting of black hair salons I was accustomed to consisted of straggly hairs on the floor that end up under your shoe, un-sanitized combs and brushes they reused on clients, and a unwelcoming “how can I help you?” when you walk in. This was a whole new breed of professionalism with an overflow of “homeyness.”
My stylist was a lovely fair-skinned “sista.” Her curls were a perfect mix of dark-brown and blonde and her smile made me comfortable with her. She provided me with an analysis of the porosity of my hair after a quick chit-chat about my product regiment and my daily maintenance routine. I listened tentatively even though I already knew the porosity of my hair. I made sure to take mental notes of everything she was saying and doing so when I got home, I would be able to do it for myself. We headed over to the Backwash Shampoo Station where she confirmed I had low porosity hair. The porosity of you hair determines how much product will penetrate your hair shaft. I’ll explain…
For those with low porosity hair, it is hard for products to penetrate our hair shaft because they are closed. Products just tend to sit on our hair. To allow products to penetrate, we must use heat to open up those shafts. That is why deep conditioning with heat/steam works well.
For normal porosity hair, it means, well, they just have perfect freaking hair! Products can penetrate well, color takes in well, and styles can be maintained well.
And for high porosity hair, they require more product because they tend to dry up fast. Their hair tends to be frizzy and can look dry. People with high porosity should stick to air drying their hair and use less heat.
Now..back to our regular schedule blog…
She did a neutralizing shampoo to remove all the gunk from my previous products, shampooed, and applied the deep conditioner. We headed over to the steamer which I sat under for about twenty minutes. Finally, we headed over to the chair of doom; the trimming station..
Stay tune for Part III; The last segment!